And sometimes it feels like you're pushing a boulder up a hill.
Sometimes we need a pep talk and there's no one to turn to who will tell us exactly what we need to hear. The times when I need this the most is when I'm functioning from conclusion. Functioning from conclusion is basically dead end thinking. I've already decided what the outcome will be and I've cut off any possibility of it turning out otherwise. It's an end.
How is that helpful? It's not. At all.
So what do I do? First of all, I have to catch myself in the act. I go "hey! I see you've already decided this is going to turn out like all the rest. You've decided that no one cares, no one will show up, they'd all rather go somewhere else or to someone else. Sounds to me like you're functioning on a loop. That's all this is, a loop. It's not real. I also see that you are looking to just one aspect of this situation and basing your success or failure on that one thing. What about the rest of it? What if it doesn't turn out that way? God, you're cute!"
It's at those times that the tools are a life saver. It's also at those times that it feels the hardest to use the tools. Those are the times when you'll convince yourself that no amount of practice could possibly have an effect.
But, you are totally and completely committed you yourself, your life and your vision of what is possible. So, you pull out a tool. And another, and another.
You remind yourself that when you ask for change it can get intense so you should actually be celebrating! Yay! Lol.
Never give up, never give in, never stop.
Ask more questions.
Stop functioning from conclusion.
The harder it feels, the closer you are.
How can I have greater ease and fun with this?
What else is possible that I can't see right now?
What's right about this I'm not getting?
What's right about me I'm not getting?
Who can I connect with?
What else can I try?
What am I so afraid to do that I know is asking to be done?
Do that thing. Finish it. Now.
Ask another question.
Do something fun. Laugh.
Find a friend who needs to be uplifted.
Go for a walk.
Listen to something that gets you fired up.
Lower your barriers and expand your energy.
Darlene Tindall is a Transformational Life Coach, multi modality healer and teacher sewing the seeds of possibility far and wide. She is available in person or online for coaching, classes, private facilitation, energy work or yoga.